Zamilování do terapeuta: Co dělat, když cítíte silnou pouto k terapeutovi

When you start feeling something deeper than just trust toward your therapist — when their voice calms you, their presence feels like home, or you find yourself replaying every word they said — you’re not broken. You’re experiencing transference, psychologický jev, kdy člověk přenáší pocity z důležitých vztahů z minulosti na terapeuta. Also known as emocionální přenos, it is a normal, even necessary, part of many therapies, especially those focused on trauma, attachment, or personality disorders. This isn’t love in the romantic sense. It’s your brain trying to heal by recreating old emotional patterns in a safe space.

Most people don’t talk about this because they’re ashamed. But if you’ve ever felt your heart race when your therapist walks in, or cried because they were on vacation — you’re not alone. Studies show that over 60% of clients in long-term therapy experience some form of transference. It’s not a sign you’re too dependent. It’s a sign your therapy is working. The real danger isn’t feeling this — it’s ignoring it. A good therapist won’t run away or judge you. They’ll help you explore where these feelings come from: maybe from a parent who was absent, a partner who betrayed you, or someone who made you feel seen for the first time.

What matters isn’t whether you fell for them — it’s what you do next. Does the feeling make you avoid talking about hard topics? Do you start imagining a life with them outside sessions? Do you feel worse when they’re not there? These are clues. Your therapist’s job isn’t to return your feelings — it’s to help you understand them. That’s how healing happens: not by avoiding the attachment, but by naming it, exploring it, and slowly untangling it from your past.

This is why some therapies — like psychodynamic or attachment-based approaches — actually encourage this dynamic. They know that real change doesn’t come from just talking about your childhood. It comes from re-experiencing it, safely, with someone who doesn’t leave. And if your therapist doesn’t know how to handle this? That’s a red flag. A skilled therapist will name it, normalize it, and turn it into your next breakthrough.

Below you’ll find real stories and practical advice from people who’ve been there — and from therapists who’ve helped them through it. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between healthy emotional connection and unhealthy attachment, what to say in session if you’re scared to speak up, and how to use this feeling to finally heal what’s been broken for years.